Jo Walton ([info]papersky) wrote,
@ 2008-02-24 09:58:00
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Robert Legault: "And that was the music, that was New York"
[info]readwrite is dead. I just saw it on Making Light, where there are a lot of touching tributes from people who knew him well. I didn't know him well, we interacted mainly right here. I noticed that he didn't post anything on my most recent copyediting whining, and wondered if he was OK. He wasn't. He was dead. He leaves a hole in the world.

I'd always hoped that one day I'd get him as a copyeditor.

I adored his livejournal.

He very seldom posted, but when he did it always made my day. Looking at it now, I thought I'd link to some of his unlocked posts so that you can see why I did. He was such a terrific writer. Some of these things should have been published in places where millions of people could have read them. He gives this very strong picture of time and place and of himself, he's funny and he turns an anecdote perfectly.

A homeless guy and a book.

Secret Master of the Universe. You wouldn't believe how many times I've thought about this and smiled.

Altercation on a subway car.

To a small creature.

Night bus.

Scavenging.

Home cooking.

You should read these, and if you want more you can just read back through his journal for yourself. But I should warn you, even though many of the posts are funny, or wryly funny, reading them will make you sad, because reading even just these open posts will make you miss him.

I wish I'd told him how much I loved his writing.

My f-list will be emptier without the possibility of coming across another brilliant quirky bit of his life. Taking him off the list would feel wrong though. But I kept [info]denizsarikarya on, and eventually, if I keep on using LJ and nobody invents immortality, I'll have more dead friends on my list than living ones. So I think a new LJ friending policy -- I'll keep dead friends on my list for a year, and then on the anniversary take them off.


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[info]kip_w
2008-02-24 03:19 pm UTC (link)
Well, now I know what I've been missing.

Today's my dead friend's birthday, and it's been more than a year. He's staying on the list.

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[info]hobbitbabe
2008-02-24 03:22 pm UTC (link)

I'm sorry for your loss. And I look forward to reading his extant writings. I know what you mean about the sad from the funny writing, because that's how I feel about Mike Ford.

So far, I've taken the dead friends off the list, but they've still had me on their lists so I can remember them when I look at my friends-of list.

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[info]redbird
2008-02-24 03:29 pm UTC (link)
I've kept the dead friends on my list, partly because there's no specific need not to, and partly because taking them off would feel somehow more like doing something final than leaving them on. Something to think about.

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[info]roadnotes
2008-02-24 04:53 pm UTC (link)
I also keep the dead friends on my list, for much the same reason. It feels as if it would be a final goodbye that I'm not ready to make yet.

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[info]baldanders
2008-02-24 03:34 pm UTC (link)
It hurts to think about word and language conversations without him. I've probably talked about editing with him more than any other single person.

He was also a hugely decent man, generous with his time and resources. He's one of the people who kept me afloat in very bad times. I can't believe he isn't there in his Lower East Side warren. Or that his books and records can survive without him.

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[info]swestrup
2008-02-24 05:08 pm UTC (link)
At one point, I unfriended [info]denizsarikaya while doing a clean up, because sometimes the memory of her loss is too painful. But that doesn't mean she'd unfriend me, of course, and from then on it always showed on my friends page that she had friended me, and I hadn't friended her back. There didn't seem much point not re-friending her then, so I did.

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[info]papersky
2008-02-24 05:18 pm UTC (link)
Yeah.

I think it may make a difference how many people there are on your "friend of" list that you haven't added back. If there are just a few, it's going to look like spurning the dead person. I hadn't thought of that. I have so many -- and it's no indication of me not liking people if I don't add them, it's just a case of time and what I want to see on my list every day.

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[info]burger_eater
2008-02-24 06:33 pm UTC (link)
Thanks for those links. I'd read them before, but it was wonderful to read them again, and so sad that there won't be any more.

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[info]elmwood
2008-02-24 07:09 pm UTC (link)
Thank you for posing this. You were right, reading his journal entries did make me sad, even though I did not know him in person. He wrote so well.

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[info]tnh
2008-02-24 08:46 pm UTC (link)
I've added your list of links to the main entry at Making Light.

I don't know why they didn't give him all your books to copyedit. It would have been a good match. You'd have gotten excellent copyedits, and he'd have enjoyed doing them.

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[info]wolfinthewood
2008-02-24 09:24 pm UTC (link)
Thank you for posting this; otherwise it's likely I'd never have known what became of him. I've posted a comment at Making Light.

I only knew him on LiveJournal, but I shall miss him.

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[info]athenais
2008-02-25 01:23 am UTC (link)
I knew him for thirty years. I can't begin to express how much I will miss him. Part of my own past died with him.

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[info]editrx
2008-02-25 03:09 pm UTC (link)
I knew Robert for a long time and he was a dear friend. There's an enormous hole in my life now. Who will I commiserate with over Copyediting/Proofreading Jobs from Hell? Who will come visit me for weeks at a time and be a quiet, literate, quirky, mind of steel hanging out in my guest room?

He's irreplaceable in this world.

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My sympathies to you all
[info]aszanoni
2008-02-26 02:27 am UTC (link)
I just spoke to Robert last year on TNH's recommendation. He was very sweet to me. It was a lovely conversation. He was supportive and kind and he'd never met me - had never spoken to me before.

Robert said I should call anytime.

I kept meaning to. I didn't. I thought I'd get a chance. :<

Jeanne Legault just wrote me...

Chica*---

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[info]ksp24
2008-02-26 03:19 pm UTC (link)
Thanks for posting those--great to re-read and re-visit.



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[info]epacris
2008-03-01 09:18 pm UTC (link)
Perhaps LJ will add an 'Absent Friends' list as time goes on. It looks like there'll be a demographic demand for it.

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